January 15, 2016

Facing a relationship breakdown? Seek a trusted Advisor

relationship breakdown can be an awful time for all involved. There are so many things to consider, so many questions to answer. One question leads to another, and they all race through your head at once. What do you do next? You’re feeling helpless, confused, angry, embarrassed and quite lost.

With all these questions, who do you turn to? Who do you seek support from and who can lead you through the complicated issues that lie ahead?

Your experience tells you to seek out a trusted advisor, after all, people seek your advice on a myriad of questions. Friends and family don’t always make the best advisors. Their view may be tainted by personal experience, what they have read in the media, or over the fence gossip. Sure, listen to them, take in what they say, but it’s important that you connect with a trusted advisor.

What makes a trusted advisor?

You are looking for a lawyer who has your best interest in mind. A lawyer that delivers what they have promised. Some Lawyers, like other professionals, have a tendency to overpromise and underdeliver. Be careful, if their claim sounds too good to be true, it probably is.  

Can your lawyer demonstrate real-life success stories? Do they have testimonials from past clients?

How you work through your relationship breakdown will significantly affect your immediate and longer term future. It’s time to be level-headed because you know that the prospects of your children and yourself depend on a cool head. Try, where possible to take emotion, especially the hurt and anger out of the equation.

A trusted advisor will look at the situation with a calm and logical viewpoint. They are not going to become your new best friend; they are there to help you solve your problems.

You need the right advice – without fear or favour. Always demand information that is in your best interests.

While a relationship breakdown is difficult, it is also the start of your new life.